Is Love Enough, or Can Women Feel Inadequate About Sexual Performance?

In an earlier post I mentioned that a major reason why I had difficulty with relationships was that I prioritize my work too highly, which has the secondary effect of excessive travel. I also hinted that there was another reason. There is.

I am difficult to bring to climax.

It's not a boast, but I can go for hours. And despite how great this may have sounded when I was young and worried about premature ejaculation, it is a curse. A curse that has fragmented many otherwise promising relationships.

Recently I received a comment about this via email:

It seems extremely strange to me that this would be the reason a GF relationship wouldn't work out--I don't quite buy it. Although, I suppose if they were very sexually inexperienced they might take it personally or something and it would make them feel not sexy.

Only a few women have been able to satisfy me sexually in the traditional manner. This is probably a lot more than you want to know about me, but it's important to this discussion. Make no mistake, I enjoy sex. I enjoy it a lot. But it doesn't finish in the typical male way for me. I have been surprised how much trouble this causes in partners. Not for a short relationship, but for long-term ones.

I have been fortunate in that I have dated or consorted with women who are attractive and sexy. They do not have trouble satisfying men. Except me. And over the long haul, they seem to prefer to be with somebody they can bring to orgasm than somebody they cannot.

But let's place my issue into context.

There is no question that I am well off. I am successful. I am a gentleman. I am educated and intelligent. I treat women well. I'm not ugly. So here is my theory:

In relationships women like to sexually satisfy their men. Men like to satisfy their women also, but society accepts that may be difficult, whereas men are supposed to be easy to satisfy, at least until they have erectile difficulties (which is most certainly not my problem, mine is the opposite.)

Women may contribute many things to a relationship, including beauty, children, child rearing, income, intellectual support and so on. But I'm a difficult problem here. I have access to many beautiful women. Children aren't an issue (yet?) I don't need income support. I hang with some of the smartest people on Earth. My meals are prepared by chefs, my appointments made my concierges and administrative assistants, my clothes selected by expert buyers, my homes bought, managed and sold by other professionals... oh, and yes, I'm physically not around a lot. So what is left for the woman to supply in a relationship? How do they express their love and commitment to a relationship?

Jerry Hall, when paired with Mick Jagger, was famously quoted as saying that her mother told her she should be a "maid in the living room, a cook in the kitchen, and a whore in the bedroom", and since she already had a maid and a cook, she could handle the rest.

My situation is a challenging form of this.

Some partners have commented in a positive way how this can create new sexual experiences, and these are usually providers. And there is definitely short term novelty.

So... is love enough? Has society set expectations that men are so easy to satisfy that it can make women feel inadequate?