Defining a Courtesan

Definition of a Courtesan

I found an interesting definition of a "courtesan" on an Australian web site linked above. Interestingly, it is an occasional topic of some debate in ASPD HDH, an Internet discussion forum of very high priced escorts, and ASPD TCE, a sister forum focused on the "companion experience" (the latter's charter definitions of courtesan appear here.) But the title one above is one of the few definitions I found interesting, and it was put up by an escort agency in Australia!

Here are some of the points in it that I found interesting:

1. They define the "dictionary" definition of courtesan as: "A skilled and socially adept provider of sexual intimacy, erotic companionship, and sacred healing, particularly when highly compensated and respected, for example in a court or high society setting."


2. The agency requires a 3-12 month apprenticeship for a courtesan. Even if that's not what they really do, it's an interesting claim. Apparently 6 to 24 months is the length of apprenticeship for a girl at the place I visited in Korea. It's shorter than the training period for a top level Geisha.


3. The site denigrates "Dangerous Beauty." This is the classic story/movie, supposedly about the famous Venetian courtesan Veronica Franco, often quoted by independent escorts purporting to be courtesans.

The site goes on to say:

A true 'Courtesan Onesto' (honest courtesan) is someone who is more beautiful inside than she is outside, regardless of how beautiful she might be. She is often unaware of the extent of her outer beauty. She also chooses to be a pleasure provider and sexual healer, she is not someone who 'has' to do things she does not enjoy, in order to pay her bills/ support her family/ habit, make ends meet. This is a prudent and sensual woman who understands she has a lot to give, and derives immense pleasure from giving, an inherently sexual being. She derives unique pleasure from knowing she has made a positive difference in her gentleman's life. The fee she is paid is simply the cherry on top, she is not concerned with the money so much as the mutual joy and quality of pleasure that can be achieved.

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She is, ironically, a rather moral woman, who sets her boundaries and cannot be 'bought'. Any woman who agrees to do extra things she would not normally do, or which she knows will hurt others or go against her friends or principles, for extra money, does not possess the class of a courtesan. A courtesan is a woman of integrity, intelligence and honesty. She is a woman of responsibility, and likes to do the 'right thing' where possible, preferring to be thought of in the best possible light by all who know her. She does not see bringing pleasure to a man in need of affection as 'wrong'. She has nothing to hide, and does not like to associate with those she feels she must keep things from. She is a 'stand-up' individual in lay terms, who would never demean herself or her reputation by allowing herself to become greedy, and becoming a humiliated play-thing who will do almost anything for money.

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She is aware of the fact that how she lives is reflected in her overall look, presentation, attitude and demeanor, and she is someone who lives well and behaves appropriately continually, not just in the eyes of those she is trying to impress. She is a genuinely elite, quality woman of high standards in all aspects, at all times. A woman like this has too much class to ever make anyone feel uncomfortable.

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She would never do anything to embarrass or hurt another individual for selfish, proud or greedy reasons. She is in fact usually more concerned for others' comforts than her own, thus entirely unselfish, whilst maintaining her own healthy, humble level self respect and esteem.

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She would never do anything to embarrass or hurt another individual for selfish, proud or greedy reasons. She is in fact usually more concerned for others' comforts than her own, thus entirely unselfish, whilst maintaining her own healthy, humble level self respect and esteem.

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When one is giving and one is taking, if the giver is happy to never receive, it can work, but anyone with any self respect would never stay in a relationship of this nature, it is unhealthy. A natural and healthy connection is where both are giving, therefore they both receive by default, and get the additional pleasure from giving.

Whew. Where do you get one of those?